Monday, October 29, 2007

Marcie Has Gone

My baby is gone. Our world is that much darker. It happened at about midnight. She was in great pain, panting and struggling, so I called the hospice nurse, who upped her medication. When I checked on her, she had slipped the bonds of her flesh. I am thoroughly and utterly crushed.


Anonymous said...

I'm not sure when you posted this but something woke me up at 2:15am this morning. I have been up ever since. I just cannot put into words....Marcie was such a special person. She is being well-taken care of. Please take care of yourself - you were her life.

Bobby said...

Marcie was a wonderful and loving sister to me, as she was to you, your wife.

She loved you very much, and I was always comforted and assured, knowing you were by her side throughout.

Marcie's spirit will always remain in our hearts and she will always be my little angel of a sister.

Tanya said...

my heart sinks with yours. I dreamed of Marcie last night. I imagine that the dream must have happened about the time of her passing. She visited me at my home to see the kids. She looked great and healthy and happy. Even in my dream I was shocked. I made her chocolate chip cookies and she was happy. I thought I should share that with you. Much love and comfort to you Frank.

Genny said...

We all are going to miss her at SignOn. She was a wonderful person, always very positive and loving. She was a little angel here on heart.
God bless her,
loving thoughts to you and your family.
Genny Pinzon

Anonymous said...


We're thinking about Marcie and you today at SignOn. She brought so much light to those around her, and I know there are many here who cared for her and are saddened by this news.

Wishing you some comfort,
Jennifer Croshaw Balanky
SignOn and San Diego SPJ

Lisa said...

Dear Frank,
Please know that Marcie touched so many lives in the most wonderful way including mine. She was a wonderful person with a ton of heart snd soul. Thank you for being such an incredible husband and friend to her. We worked together at and everyone has missed her so much. I now live in Seattle, Washington but please let me know if there's anything I can do for you and your family at this time. You all are in our thoughts and prayers.
Lisa Castro-Waldorf

Anonymous said...

Frank, All I can think of to say is that I love you and am in so much gratitude for your loving and thoughtful care of Marcie. Marcie is definitely a beam of light and love that I will miss greatly. She was the most thoughtful and loving friend who taught me so much. I am in so much gratitude for you both.
Love and light, Lisa

Lisa Carter said...

I just received the heartbreaking news of Marcie's passing. I was woken up this morning at 2:00am and was unable to go back to sleep until 4:30 or 5am. I should have logged on to your site, and I would have understood why I had suddenly had this sense that something was wrong. I wanted to tell Tanya that Marcie told me she would be visiting us in our dreams, so I believe Tanya's visit from Marcie was an intended visit to give comfort to her. She also mentioned that you, Frank, might not be as comfortable with that thought; but Marcie said that she often had visits from her friend who had passed away years ago (the friend that she had traveled Europe with). I just want you to know that all of us feel your loss. Our world has lost its bright, beautiful, passionate, witty, wonderful friend ... and I want you to be comforted in knowing you were the very center of Marcie's world.
All my love,
Lisa Carter

Carlos said...

I'm deeply sorry.
Whatever I can do.

Amy said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing the past few weeks with us, I am sure it was and is very difficult for you. Please take care of yourself.
With Love,
Amy Horne

Tanya said...

After reading about the other friends whom were awakened at 2 a.m. or so, I now truly believe that my dream about Marcie was indeed a visit from her. I hope she visits all of you, and especially you Frank. I'm here for you and anything you need. Love and tears, Tanya

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for your lose and the lose of a dear friend. I read this poem when another was gone too soon from us. It reminded me of how Marcie would want us to remember her.

I'm Free
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free.
I'm following the path God laid for me,
I took His hand when I heard Him call,
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work, or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I found that place at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Ah yes, these things, I too, will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow.
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much:
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief.
Don't lenghten it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me.
God wanted me now, He set me free.

God Bless you Marcie!


Chrissy Patterson said...

I'm deeply sorry for your tremendous loss. I will forever treasure the memories of my dear Marcie.

She was a gem of a girlfriend to me & so many others.

Please convey my condolences to Mr. & Mrs. Stoddard as well as to Bobby his wife and Jane too!

(sidebar) Melissa, the poem you wrote was so appropriate, thanks for sharing it.

Marcie, may you rest in peace
You will remain in my heart forever
Love, Chrissy

Anonymous said...

Dear Frank,

Marcie is always in my heart. She is a gentle and kind soul. She was so compassionate when I was having trouble with my teenage son-always offering a shoulder to cry on, a warm hug, and encouraging words. She is a bright and beautiful woman who will be missed by all. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Christine Alexander
(A teammate from SignOnSanDiego)

Anonymous said...


Please accept my condolences on the loss to you and your families. I'm glad that I knew her, and the special character and warmth she shared with everyone who came into contact with her.

Brian Murphy

Anonymous said...

It is a sad day and many hearts are heavy with the news of Macie's passing. She always had a way of seeing the best in people. Whatever life dealt her, she handled it with such dignity and always had room for concern of others no matter how difficult her day was. And the space you created for Marcie to live her last moments was remarkable. You both are examples of humanity at it's finest and anyone that has had the privilege of knowing each of you is forever blessed. Take comfort in knowing that you are held in many hearts through this difficult time.
With love,
Janet and Dave Ryden

Rick Eaton said...

My deepest sympathy. One door closes and another opens. Thank you for sharing her loving spirit with the world. Marcie will live on in our hearts.
Rick Eaton

Agustin Albarran said...

Dear Frank:

My family and I would like to extend our deepest sympathy. My sister Chrissy Patterson spoke fondly of Marci over the course of many years. Marci's travels, experiences, and zest for life are present even though I only met her a couple of times.

Agustin Albarran & Family

Anonymous said...

Frank, I just saw this; I am so sorry for your loss.

Brooke (from the Star-News)

Michael said...

Dear Frank,

I am a friend of Bob's and heard the news of Marcie's passing from another mutual friend. I haven't seen her, nor Bob for years but they both were a big part of my life.

She was a beautiful woman and it obviously a beautiful wife to you.

Remember she is still her and she is just waiting, until you meet again in heaven.

Love and peace,

Cheryl Chapman-Johnson